If you\u2019re finding it hard to make your children do what you tell them to do, perhaps it\u2019s time to evaluate how you communicate. The \u201cbecause I said so\u201d approach is counterproductive. Children need to know the \u201cwhy\u201d of things. Do you want them to put their toys back in their proper place? Tell them the importance of cleaning up and taking care of things. This will help them understand the basis of the things you\u2019re asking them to do.
You should also take the time to listen to your child, giving their thoughts and opinions value. When they feel that they aren\u2019t judged, they will be more open to sharing their ideas instead of repressing them. What\u2019s more, kids who are involved in the decision-making process are more likely to hold up their end of an agreement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be Consistent With Discipline<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Establishing house rules is important because it sets expectations and teaches your children how to respect authority and develop self-control. However, house rules would mean nothing if you don\u2019t follow through with the consequences. Consistency is the key here; your children might test your patience but don\u2019t give in. Setting limits early on and being consistent with implementation can teach your children how to be responsible for their actions.
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Be Flexible<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Being flexible might seem counterintuitive, since the previous point emphasized consistency. Still, there is such a thing as setting unrealistic expectations. What\u2019s more, being consistent with discipline doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t change the way you approach it. Be open to possibilities and look at a situation from a different perspective. This is especially true as your child grows up and learns more from their teachers, classmates, friends, and environment.
Besides, allowing yourself to be a flexible parent shows your children that it\u2019s okay to make mistakes and that you can change your mind. It shows that you can make better decisions by gathering new information.
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Don\u2019t Be Afraid to Show Affection<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Younger children are generally more receptive to gestures of affection like hugs and kisses. As they grow older, they might be a little more reluctant (especially when they don\u2019t want to be seen as \u201cbabies\u201d anymore). Still, don\u2019t be afraid to show your affection in other ways. Listen to their stories, encourage their interests, and spend quality time with them. Give them the freedom to make their own choices, but offer your guidance.
It\u2019s also important to let your children know that your love is unconditional. Be encouraging, rather than fault-finding. Let them know that even though they make mistakes, you\u2019re there to support and love them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Last but certainly not least, modern parenting means recognizing your weaknesses. Be forgiving of yourself and understand that there really is no such thing as a perfect parent. Admit your mistakes, work on improving them, and admit when you need to take a break. Parenting takes a lot of work and you need to rest to be able to do it well.
Thanks for stopping by ladies, and till next post!<\/p>\n\n\n\n